(physical, mental and
verbal) within yourself and your own life.
be truly non-violent, it is necessary to cultivate the spirit of
non-judgment and forgiveness. Non-violence requires a continual refinement
and awareness of your own inner process. It requires the reduction and
eventual elimination of judgment, criticisms, and projections onto others.
True non-violence is the development of a positive dynamic quality of
love and not a mere attitude of negative harm to others.
by aligning thoughts,
words and actions.
Being truthful has many facets including
following through with our commitments, not saying one thing and doing
another. It is also not saying one thing to one person and making a
contradictory statement to another. It is also not saying another.
Truthfulness constructs rather than destroys; it is not a state of angrily
hurling our opinions or judgments to others, thinking them to be fact. It is
taking responsibility for our own judgments of others by looking to the
source of our projections within our own selves. It is the direct expression
to another, free of the anger that arises out of our own unfilled
expectations and desires. Truthfulness is the gift of non-criticism. It
expresses the thoughts and words that heal rather than wound the hearts of
others. There is great power in truthfulness. When truthfulness is
achieved, your words will acquire the power of fruition and manifestation.
Non-Covetousness (Non Envy)
When we give up "wanting" many things
will be given onto us and manifest in a variety of unexpected ways.
Non-covetousness creates a feeling of unattachment. We only want or "covet"
what we feel we lack, whether it is material possessions or qualities we
admire in others. If we envy the possessions and qualities of others that we
feel we lack within ourselves, it can create territorialness, competition,
envy and, in turn, the "downplaying" of others in order to boast our low
self esteem. When we are fulfilled within ourselves there is no need to
compete, criticize, or gossip about others to make ourselves feel superior.
When there is no envy or wanting what others have (possessions or qualities)
we can delight in their joys and successes as we would our own.
Assume an Attitude of
– (physical and
emotional) avoiding over accumulation of possessions that causes us to
protect and defend.
This mainly refers to our
storehouse of memories of anger, resentment, projections and aggressive
thoughts towards others. As we develop a feeling of giving in all areas of
our lives, it contributes to a sense of
trust and non-defensiveness. When we are bound by the ordinary desire of
a variety of needs for security, the walls we build to keep something in
also are the walls that keep something out. We become possessed by our own
need for security which can also take the form of attachment to personal,
ideological, socio-political, religious and spiritual beliefs. When desire
to possess and accumulate is absent, we seek nothing for our separated and
individual self. Non-possessiveness is a stage where we find that "more is
not always better", and that "if only things could be different", then we
would be happy. It is the realization that little is required for a
and true experience of
Regulate the Senses
avoiding physical and
regulation is not repression of sensual needs for gratification but
sublimation of our desires into the sacred act of giving of oneself. For
instance, it is meeting one's sexual partner as a manifestation of the
divine. It is moving from self-gratification to understanding the roots
of the needs of the human soul. Regulating the senses is not just of
food, drink or the sexual drive, it also includes self pity. When our
eyes are filled with our own tears, they cannot see the suffering of
others. When we indulge in our own emotional pains, we cannot extend our
hands to another. Self pity is the mirror of our ego turned in on
ourselves. It creates separation rather than unification. When we are
absorbed with our little self, we cannot serve the greater whole.
As we release the motive for power,
success and recognition, we learn to take up each action for the sake of
the action alone, letting go of the need or attachment to a particular
outcome. In conflict resolution, it is extremely important to do everything
possible to bring about healing of the situation and then let go of a
desired outcome. Our mission is to be a spontaneous channel for the
love with no self reference or need for self-recognition. Purifying our
motives require a constant watching of all desires and hidden agendas that
cross our mental horizons. It is endeavoring to take an action while at the
same time, letting go of our desire for a specific result. Pride may be the
outcome where there is desire for achievement or an attachment for the
results of our actions. Pride breeds separation and is a hindrance to our
sense of oneness with all humanity.
to develop the spirit of
non-attachment as the witness or onlooker who sees all people and happenings
through the light of universal love.
is not a state of repression but a state of serenity that transforms the
negative into the
recognizing that every thought we have is contagious and the time is coming
when every thought will become public property. Therefore, our inner
contentment radiates and creates an atmosphere of serenity and peace.
Contentment and serenity is the deep calm devoid of emotional disturbances.
Contentment is "seamless" where we are the in all life's situations of
conflict, but we can help
heal conflict situations by contributing our own calmness, serenity,
peace of mind and compassion. Contentment and Serenity are the way of the
in all situations.
Do not try to get rid of life's
difficulties, but be thankful that they are there to smooth the ragged edges
of the personality and to teach
greater compassion for others. Find a point of peace within you in the
midst of any or all conditions of
life. Achieve equanimity both in praise and blame,
failure where public opinion has no hold over your mind or
Study the Lives &
Writings of Inspirational Role Models
become inspired by the lives of historical figures living and non-living, who
have incorporated the principles of non-violence, love, compassion and
forgiveness into their daily lives. Contemplate their lives and remember them
during life's difficulties and the "dark nights of the soul". Hold the
remembrance of those who have shed light on the darkened corners of mind and
heart in life's most difficult hours.
Remember God or
in all life's actions
your beliefs and non-beliefs, when confronting conflict situations
your life or within the lives of others, it is very important to develop
growing sensitivity to hearing the inner voice that leads to the defenseless
endeavor to dwell in the
Higher Self. Holding the "remembrance" is the perfect steadiness of
inner poise which holds to the vision yet does the outer work on the
physical plane. It is doing the work of the world with one hand while
holding the remembrance of God or the Higher Self with the other.