full responsibility for the emotion. Even if you
don't fully believe it right now, tell yourself, "I Create My
Reality, and I am Creating this Emotion Right Now". Usually,
people never get beyond step one because they actually believe
that outer circumstances are causing their emotions.
the emotion. Giving the emotion a name increases
your clarity, awareness, and consciousness. Don't just say
you feel sad or bad or mad.
Expand your emotional knowledge until you can positively
identify the feelings of violation, disappointment, anxiety,
shame, embarrassment, and many more.
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of the story. The story is whatever it is outside
yourself that you think caused the emotion. Literally "see"
the story being cut off from your emotion and fading away.
Let go of the story but keep the emotion that you created
and which now has a name.
the emotion. Blessing the emotion means not
judging it as good or bad. Accept the emotion in a spirit of
gratitude and learning. This is necessary in order to do the
next step properly.
the emotion. With no judging or resistance,
simply feel the emotion. Notice where you feel the emotion
physically in your body. Raise your consciousness as you
become a "witness", a kind of
observer of your own processes. What you resist
persists, and allowing the emotion in this way is the very
opposite of resistance.
In a spirit of
learning and willingness to grow, ask for insight as to
the reason for the emotion. Don't go back to the story. The
"cause" of the emotion is you, and nothing outside yourself.
Ask "What do I need to learn from this emotion." Also ask
belief do I own that created this emotion."
Identify the belief.
Create a space for the answer to come, and it
will come. At the root of nearly every painful emotion is an
ineffective belief. You may believe that you must make
everyone happy. You may believe you can't be loved if you
are not perfect. You may believe that you are simply not
Replace the belief. Once you have identified the
belief, choose to replace it with a more effective belief.
Literally say to yourself, "I now choose to reject this
(ineffective belief) and adopt this (empowering belief) in
– You will find that during the last four steps of
the process, something magical has happened! The painful emotion
is gone, completely transformed into something else. The reason
for this magic is the clarity and increase in consciousness.
Normally, people resist their
painful emotions with intense energy, which only keeps them
festering and in pain for hours. By allowing yourself to feel in
a spirit of openness and acceptance, you can learn your lessons
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A fantastic side benefit is that
you now have a powerful new belief in place! You can grow more
in a few weeks than you have in the past years by practicing
this process diligently.