Many years ago, when a co-worker died in his 30's, I met his parents at the funeral. Trying to help him with the loss of their only child, I told them what a wonderful person their son had been. "Wonderful person?" the father said in an agitated voice, "Certainly not! I kicked him out when he was 16 and I haven't seen him since."

I was stunned by his comment, left immediately and realized there was no point in asking what had happened between them. But even today, I still get chills when I think about the anger I heard in that father's voice. What a difficult life it must have been for the son and it amazed me what a nice, friendly and pleasant person he became in spite of his difficult family problems.

"For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

But this article is not about getting angry, it's about fixing it.





Clearly the father lost his chance to ever reconcile with his son and he will go to his grave with that hatred. But this sad story could be a reminder for us to patch up while it is still possible.

Sometimes things go wrong and we get angry that is the nature of the beast. But once our anger subsides and it will eventually we have to focus on fixing it. Saying "I am sorry" is the first step and showing that we want to mend the broken communication is the key to success. It's not always easy, but perseverance will help.

Before It's Too Late

Are you angry about something? Control the anger, before it controls you, and start fixing the problem.